May 23, 2007
HOW TO DEAL WITH PROBLEMS
An MC raised up the glass of water and asked the audiences:
"Any of you know, what is the weight of this glass of water"?
" It depends on how long do you hold it"- said one of the audiences
"Yes, you are right. The longer I hold it, the more tired and heavier i feel".
And he came to an end: "Same thing, any problem in your daily life, just put it down and take it easy for a while before continuing taking it back to solve it because life is too short to enjoy. And the more you keep it with you, the more you feel tired. When you feel tired, you can't be lucid to decide anything".
This is the story i read on a random website and i was thinking of you. So this post is especially for you, my little pig and......for me as well.
You know, our life is neither long or short. No one knows what will happen tomorrow. We just live for today and hope for tomorrow. But sometimes, hope doesn't happen as expected. Do you notice that, in our life, SADNESS IS ALWAYS MORE THAN HAPPINESS.
Nobody is happy or sad as well as lucky or unlucky all life long. If today you are happy, let's appreciate it because it won't last forever. But unfortunately, bad thing happens to you today, you should also appreciate it because of it, you have learned a new lesson in your life to avoid it next time. And PROBLEMS ARE ALWAYS CHALLENGES TO MAKE YOU GROW UP.
I've heard so many people say "Why bad luck, shit things always happen to me simultaneously and continuously" so don't worry, not only you feel that way, the other people do too. It's how we look at the problems.
I used to laugh like mad, talk like crazy and make fun of myself each time I was in trouble and couldn't get out of it. My friends looked at me with strange eyes and asked me "How come today you are so crazy". This is the only way I could do even after that I feel sad like hell and extremely desperate, but at least I was happy in a few minutes and a few minutes can make a day. That means, 1 minute you try to forget your sadness and smile is 1 minute you stay happy.
So just try to get out of your sadness, your problem by smiling even just for 1 minute.
There is a psychologist said: Smiling need to be trained: when to smile, how to smile, etc... It's absolutely true.
Normally, people just shout out loud or even curse at bad things happen to them, then after that they place themselves in impasse because don't know what to do. However, there are very a few people who know how to take problem calmly and solve it slowly. The special thing about them is they smile every time.
One of my friends who ever had a frightful childhood, lost his father since he was so young, lacked of his mom's love, was a street-child and did a lot of things to earn for a living, etc... Until now, his life is much better than last time, has a permanent job, has own house, even not too big... Sometimes, here and there in his life, there are still some problems and I've known some. But he always smiles and makes people laugh. I was wondering why then he answered: "Even sorrow or happiness, we still have to live, why don't we live happily to enjoy our life" And I realize that I forget to smile lately that's why my face looks older.
I believe that you already have your own way how to deal with your problem, it's just time for you to do it, but what I want to remind you is while finding the way to solve your problem, don't ever forget to smile because one day passes by so fast. Your day is going to be shortened more and your problems are gone quickly if you keep smiling. The rest of it, just let it be, because
WHATEVER HAS MEANT TO BE, IT WILL HAPPEN.
Just try as much as you can, to enjoy your life even sometimes life brings you tears. And if you need help, family and friends are always around you.
I wish to see you happy every day...